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Hello, My Name Is Christine And I Hate The "What Do You Do" Question.

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You've been there. You know what I'm talking about.

Those situations you find yourself in where you've got a lanyard hanging on your neck all day and polite conversation in line for coffee during a break in the conference eventually leads to ...the question.

"So...what do you do?"

I hate this question. It makes me feel self conscious. I even hate explaining why it makes me feel self conscious. It just does.

Because I do a lot of things. But saying that sometimes sounds like I do nothing at all when you're in a situation where all you want is two packs of Splenda.  

So what exactly do I do?

I'm still trying to figure out my elevator pitch for this year.

Catching up at lunch yesterday I was telling my insanely smart friend Kevin about this frustration of mine.

He said I was a Tummler.

"...conversational catalyst within a group, to welcome newcomers, rein in old hands and set the tone of the conversation so that it can become a community."

It's a Yiddish word. I didn't fully understand it the first time I heard him talk about it while watching the video from his talk at Web 2.0 Expo. I totally get it now.

Clarity over a bowl of ramen. I love it.

So now I feel much better going into the new year feeling like there's a place for me at the big kids table.

But I'm still not sure how to answer the "what do you do" question.

I think I'll just avoid the coffee lines at conferences until I figure that one out.

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Comments (3)

Jan 06, 2010
Elliott Ng said...
Tummler is too Web 2.0 and obscure. What's wrong with "connector" or "matchmaker"? Anyway, I don't have an answer to this question either so I'll hide away from the coffee lines at conferences with you!

Anyway, I'd be happy to brainstorm your "what do you do" answer because you already know what you do, its just packaging it in the right way for small brains... :)

Jan 06, 2010
Bianca said...
:) that made me smile. I don't like that question either, because it bores me. I feel like a robot repeating the same thing every time. And I can't find an escape either. What are we supposed to say? Screw that let's talk about REAL stuff??

I should try and do that to see what happens. BTW, I love your blog motto ;)

Feb 02, 2010
vpostrel said...
"What do you do?" may be awkward, but as a search for conversational common ground it beats, "Do you have children?" You can always answer by saying something to the effect that you do a lot of different things but you're interested in X and Y, which is really what people want to know.

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